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Ladies, It’s Time To Get Into the Hips!

Hello lovelies!! In today’s video I am introducing you to one of the basic feminine movements: the hip circle! Tapping into your feminine body is all about getting into more circular, spiral movements. In our day to day life, we are very linear. Let’s break out of that by getting into those hips and booty!!

The ONE Thing You Need to Remember if You Are TOO Busy & Overwhelmed

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We live in a culture of busy-ness. Ask any one of your friends how they have been lately and often you will get a reply akin to, “Good, just really busy”. You’ve probably even said it yourself; I know I have. Many of us wear our busy-ness as a badge of honor.

Being busy doesn’t have to be a bad thing. There is a good kind of busy, where our lives feel full and our various activities provide us with a sense of meaning and joy. Other times however, our constant quest to be busy leaves us feeling drained. Despite our full calendars our lives can seem surprisingly…empty.

If you feel like your busy life isn’t giving you the sense of profound satisfaction that you are looking for, or if you feel like one of those hamsters running in the wheel and you can’t stop for fear of falling and getting your head chopped off, I have one important thing to remind you of:

Everything in your life and on your calendar is there because at some point you said yes to it.

That simple statement has the power to be incredibly freeing or incredibly frustrating, depending on your frame of mind.

What was your initial reaction to that statement? Was it an “Amen sister!”, a “Wow I never thought of it that way” or a “No, that’s not true because I have X, Y, and Z that I have to do and trust me, I’d rather not but I don’t have a choice”.

If you are in the “Amen sister!” category, you know your schedule works for you (and not the other way around). Mad props to you girl. Keep on keepin’ on.

If you were in the “I never thought of it that way” frame of mind, hopefully you will find a new perspective on your busy calendar that will bring more openness and freedom to your life.

If you gravitated straight to the last option or some variation of it, for whatever reason, your immediate reaction probably included defensiveness and resistance. You may have come up with examples in your head which you feel are in your life NOT because of your choice but out of necessity, obligation or the fact that someone else put them there.

To that I ask, where else in your life are you giving your power away?

If you feel like your life and schedule is in the hands of someone else, you are voluntarily stepping out of the driver’s seat in your life. It’s as if you hopped over to the passenger side and handed over the keys, but then proceeded to complain about how the other person is driving, where you are going, etc.

If you are looking for more freedom in your life and schedule, baby it’s time to get your license and hop behind the wheel! Take ownership of everything in your life!

Look at your calendar. What’s on there that doesn’t light you up, or even worse, makes you groan? WHY the heck is it still on there?

Your answer is probably because you feel like you have to go or are obligated in some way. Your life can start opening up for you when you realize that even the act of labeling something as an “obligation” is your choice! Really you are choosing to attend because you believe there will be consequences if you don’t and you prefer to not to deal with those consequences (unhappy friends, disappointed parents, a nasty look from your boss, etc.), but it’s not like someone is holding a gun to your head (unless they are and in which case, you should probably comply).

Try this on for size: Say no to at least one of those events that you are not looking forward to. Maybe it’s a networking event. A phone date with an acquaintance that wants to pick your brain about something. A dinner with old colleagues. Change your RSVP to no, delete it off your digital calendar, and cross it out of your planner Remember that by saying no to this event, you are really saying YES to something else. Something better.

You are saying yes to the SPACE for something else to come into your life. Something that gives you greater joy. Something that you are legitimately excited about. You are honoring yourself, valuing your time and taking ownership of the life that you want to create. Can I get an amen?

 

 

I Know What It Feels Like to Just Go Through The Motions…

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Today I want to share a bit of my story with you and how I got to where I am today.

First, let me start off by saying that this is not a woe-is-me sob story. I have been super blessed and my life has always been pretty good. For the last decade or so, I lived in the City of Angels, where the weather is beautiful year-round. I was in a loving relationship and had fantastic friends. I wasn’t really passionate about my job or the industry, but it paid well, I had lovely coworkers and I got to work remotely, avoiding traffic.

On paper, it sounds amazing, right?

Yet, something felt off. I didn’t feel lit up or like I was creating the life that I wanted. My life was based on what I had been given, and I had made the best out of it. But a large chunk of me felt like I was just going through the motions.

And that’s the thing. Even if your life looks great on the outside, if you are not head-over-heels in love with it, you are not living to your truest potential.

Nothing can zap your life force energy faster than feeling like you are just going through the motions. My Mondays would flow into Sundays, weeks became years and I didn’t feel truly present in my own life. I realized that this was a poor excuse for living. I was merely existing, and inside I was ravenous for more. I owed it to myself, to my husband, and to the world to start living authentically.

So I set out to create my life on my own terms. I wasn’t even sure what that meant when I started. I took some small baby steps – classes in photography and creative writing, a regular yoga and meditation practice, pole dancing (!) – and that eventually led way to bigger steps and finally giant quantum leaps!

Once it became clear to me that by merely “existing” I was letting a very important part of my soul wither off and die, I knew it was time to make some big changes. After getting my coaching certification from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, I quit my job and started my coaching practice full-time. I moved from Los Angeles to Austin, closer to my family and into a house with the big yard that I had been yearning for.

Now I wake up and live with purpose, desire and intention everyday, and it feels damn good.

I want to help do the same for you. In my 3-month signature program Uncage your Wild Heart, I will help you discover what really makes you tick, unearth your deepest soul desires, and help you strategize how you can bring that forth into the world. I want you to feel gloriously alive; I believe that is the greatest gift you have to offer.

Don’t waste any more time existing. You never get it back. Click Here to set up your free Discovery Call today to begin creating the life you’ve hardly dared to dream of.

Summer Salad with Quinoa & Strawberries

If you know me, or follow my blog at all, you are probably already aware of my slight obsession with quinoa salads. I just can’t get enough of them. They are so easy & quick to make, and they taste so freakin’ good! This one might be my favorite iteration of all time. It can stand alone as a meal for 3 people, or is a great side dish to serve up alongside some grilled fish or chicken. Add a crisp, dry white wine and your evening is pretty much set.

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INGREDIENTS

1 1/2 cups quinoa

3 cups water

1 1/2 cups organic fresh strawberries, diced

1/2 cup red onion, diced

1/2 English cucumber, cut into little chunks

4 cups baby spinach

3 oz goat cheese, crumbled

1 Tbsp. mint, finely chopped

1/8 cup of olive oil

1 avocado, peeled & cubed

juice of 1 large lemon

salt and pepper to taste

INSTRUCTIONS

Add quinoa and water to a small sauce pan. Bring to a boil, reduce heat, cover and simmer for 15 minutes or till all water is absorbed.

Meanwhile, cut up all your veggies + strawberries +mint and add to a large salad bowl (don’t add the avocado yet …save that for last). Add the quinoa to the bowl (it doesn’t even have to be cooled all the way), along with the spinach, and the goat cheese. Drizzle on the olive oil and squeeze on the juice of one big lemon. Add salt and pepper to taste (I usually use about 1/4 tsp. of Trocomare salt and 1/8 tsp. of fresh cracked pepper). Toss to coat and mix everything together. Finally, add the avocado and toss gently.

 

When Good Thoughts Go Bad

We all know the power of positive thinking. We attract the same energy that we put out there. We are not able to choose what happens to us, but we can choose how we respond to it.

While these can all be great techniques for helping us to shift our mindset and perception of reality, they can also function as fuel for further self-criticism.

We all have emotions. We all have shitty days. Things happen which are really difficult to see in a positive light, especially right when we are living through them. Yes, maybe with time and distance we can see that something happened for us rather than to us, but while we are right in the thick of it, oftentimes it doesn’t feel that way.

There are times when we feel down, when we want to cry or scream or throw things. Or maybe just wallow in self-pity while eating ice cream and watching bad television.

Instead of actually feeling these negative emotions, or processing them through our bodies, in comes the voice of the self-critic disguised as a self-help guru.

“You don’t need to feel this way. You shouldn’t feel this way. Think of something else instead, something positive. Think of all that you are grateful for. Oh, you can’t think of anything right now? How can you be so ungrateful for all the abundance in your life? I can’t believe how stupid and selfish you are.”

I know that sounds harsh, but our inner critic is not afraid to take the gloves off.

The goal of positive thinking should not be to simply negate the emotions we don’t want to deal with. As cliché as it sounds, life is full of ups and downs. Things will not always be sunshine and rainbows no matter how much inner work you have done. Shit happens.

And when our preferred method of dealing with it is immediately judging our own negative reaction as unsavory (and clearly a sign that we are not enlightened enough) we are merely feeding our inner perfectionist. We are showing her that once again, we are not up to snuff.

I shouldn’t be feeling this way or having this reaction. I am still not good enough.

In that way, if used improperly, positive thinking can easily perpetuate the state of inner beliefs that we are trying to change.

What should we do instead?

Feel the feeling. Dive into it, like you are diving into a pool. Experience how it feels in your body at that particular moment. Practice radical acceptance. Accept that you feel that way now, and that you don’t want to feel that way forever. Don’t judge the feeling and don’t go into your story about the feeling; simply allow it to exist in the here and now.

When you have allowed yourself to feel that initial raw, burning edge of sadness or fear or anger, when it has dulled a little bit, then you can begin to let the light in again. Now introduce thoughts of gratitude for everything that is going right in your life at this moment. This way you are not blocking your emotions. You are accepting them and then moving on back into the light.

It’s when we judge ourselves and shut down that we get stuck. Nasty feelings are shoved into dark corners and covered with bright, happy blankets of positivity. Then we live in constant fear that someone will lift up the blanket and see us for what we truly are. That is exhausting and inauthentic.

Instead let’s start practicing radical acceptance and compassion for ourselves. After all, this human experience we are all having can be messy, and that’s also what makes it so spectacularly beautiful.