Singing Bird Holistic Health Coaching

Is Your Wild Feminine Soul Withering?

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Hello my dear wild-hearted woman,

I hope you had a beautiful Thanksgiving. I wanted to reach out to you to let you know this is officially the LAST CALL to join me and Serena Hicks on our Fiercely Feminine Sedona Retreat. Registration closes at MIDNIGHT TONIGHT (11/25).

As we started planning this retreat two words kept running through my head…“soul nourishment”.

There is a chapter in Women Who Run With The Wolves where Clarissa Pinkola Estes describes how the wild nature of women needs to return to the soul home on a regular basis and that the timing of these instinctive cycles lives within us.

But sadly, we often reject and delay the return to our soul-home, even when we know we are overdue. We stay in the upper world because we have too many things to do, too many daily tasks to fulfill, we are too busy at work, there is no one to take care of the kids, take care of the house, etc. So we stay and slowly begin to dry out; the juicy wild nature of our feminine soul withering.

How do you know if you have sacrificed your soul nourishment? It is tricky because often times it is rewarded in our culture.

Estes writes: “When a woman is too long gone from home, she is less and less able to propel herself forward in life. Instead of pulling in the harness of her choice, she’s dangling from one. She’s so cross-eyed with tiredness that she trudges right on past the place of help and comfort. The dead litter is comprised of ideas, chores, and demands that don’t work, have no life, and bring no life to her. Such a woman becomes pale yet contentious, more and more uncompromising, yet scattered. Her fuse burns shorter and shorter. Popular culture calls this ‘burnout’ – but it’s more than that, it’s hambre del alma, the starving soul. Then, there is only one recourse, finally the woman knows she has to – not might, maybe, sort of, but must – return to home.”

When was the last time you allowed yourself to nourish your feminine soul? How long has it been since you have taken time out of your life in the upper world to come home to yourself, without worrying about friends, husbands, children, or pets?

When was the last time you returned home?

THIS is why Serena and I are passionate about creating this space for women. A space of sacred sisterhood where you can be known and learn to know yourself on a deeper level. It is an instinctual experience I know far too few of us allow ourselves.

If you have been receiving these emails and have been thinking of coming, but are still unsure, I would love to hop on the phone with you for 10-15 minutes and answer any questions that you might have. Simply email me at singingbirdhealth@gmail.com or fill out the contact form on my website and let me know.

And if you are ready to come back home, to spend time nourishing your own feminine soul, complete your registration by clicking here.

In Defense of Dreaming…VIDEO BLOG!!

This week I decided to mix it up a little bit and instead of writing you a newsletter, I made a video!!

This video is in defense of dreaming. You see, dreaming is under attack in our society. It is seen as weak and airy fairy, lacking substance or realism. Something reserved for idealistic souls with their heads up in the clouds all day, who fart rainbows and unicorns.

But I want to let you in on a little secret. If you long to reclaim your power, you must reclaim your dreams. In the video I tell you about one of my own experiences with declaring and stepping into a dream that felt way too big for me at the time…

Y’all, speaking of dreaming, registration for the FIERCELY FEMININE SEDONA RETREAT closes Black Friday. Aka in a little over three days.

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If you are on the fence, get in there already. It is going to be an amazingly restorative and transformational weekend, AND as our gift of gratitude to you, Serena and I are offering you an EXTRA NIGHT (Thursday) at the Kimpton Amara included in the price of registration so that you can start the weekend well-rested and ready to rock!

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To recap, this weekend includes…

  • THREE NIGHTS at a luxury boutique hotel.
  • Desire Map Deep Dive where you will unearth and declare your core desired feelings for the holiday season and 2017.
  • Daily feminine movement classes, appropriate for any body or fitness level, led by my amazing co-hostess and creator of Bon Bon Barre Serena Hicks
  • Delicious, organic, chef-prepared meals from the moment the retreat begins to the final celebratory Bubbles N’ Brunch on Sunday. You won’t need to worry about a single meal. And yes, we can accommodate any dietary restrictions you may have.
  • Two magical field trips into the beautiful surrounding nature of Sedona, known for its healing properties and energy vortexes
  • Love, giggles, tears and everything in between in a safe space of sacred sisterhood where all of you is welcome and encouraged.
  • A fully immersive experience and time out of your daily life dedicated solely to you and your personal growth. Your feminine soul needs this. All of ours do.
  • A community of like-minded, open-hearted women who are committed to taking back their power, coming home to themselves, and changing the freakin’ world, one joyously free soul at a time.

If you are ready to SAY YES to yourself, to your own growth, to your own dreams in 2017 and beyond…click here to reserve your space now.

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So….Now What? A Few Post-Election Thoughts

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It has been a week, hasn’t it? It feels to me like there is a subtle undercurrent of electricity running through the air that could spark at any point and cause an explosion.

Fun times!!

But as uncomfortable as this is, it is highlighting something important: how we handle the unknown. We cannot predict what the next two months will look like, much less the next four years and beyond. This is always equally as true, but like many other things, it has just become more evident lately.

The unknown scares the living crap out of us.

You can probably see that when you log onto Facebook or turn on the news…both are filled with plenty of potential doomsday scenarios.

You either buy into them, or you don’t.

I don’t mean this to sound callous or like we should all stick our heads in the sand and pretend that everything is okay. But when you get on that speculation bandwagon, things start to spiral down very quickly and it is easy to fall into despair and/or reactivity.

And when we are in that state, we are not really helping anything. We feel anxious and stressed, our nervous system gets hijacked, and we don’t think as clearly.

This is why it is important to stick with what is true right now and go from there. For us to get really clear on what is within our control or sphere of influence, and put our energy there instead of feeding the giant fear monster that is gobbling everyone up left and right.

I do want to say how important it is to feel your feelings and know that there is nothing wrong with them. Processing those feelings takes as long as it takes. You may have come out of it; you may still be there. Either is fine, but you don’t want to get stuck there.

Emotion is meant to MOVE, but we need to allow it to.

When we keep scouring the web to re-trigger the same feeling, we never allow it to move out of our bodies. We keep the trauma alive.

For me, the most important thing right now is coming back into a creative feminine space. Leading from a space of what I desire to create and what I desire to be created. I feel like embodying that energy is more important now then ever.

To come back home to our bodies and find that generative spark as opposed to the reactionary one.

It is subtle, but it feels more like a moving towards rather than a fighting against. Standing for and inviting others into your image of what the world can be. Not taking any bullshit, standing firm for what you believe in, and yet also not getting sucked into the vortex of negativity.

Because that’s not where the change is going to come from.

In the words of Albert Einstein, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

How many of our problems, at their root, have been caused by fear?

I know full well how difficult this is, but if we are trapped in the fear spiral, we will not progress. We will continue to live this same cycle over and over and over again. How many of you have found yourself saying, “I thought we were past this” in the last few weeks?

This is why it is so important to spend time and energy getting yourself back into the creative space. Daring, even in the face of great odds, to continue to desire and to dream of something better. This is why I am so freakin’ excited for the Fiercely Feminine Retreat coming up in Sedona. I am yearning for time spent with other women cultivating this energy.

I got a taste of it in a circle I co-led with a friend this weekend, and I left feeling filled up. Hopeful. Ready to take action in a way that felt meaningful.

I would love to have you join us in Sedona, but if you can’t make it, I understand. But I urge you to find this space somewhere for yourself. Somewhere you can show up fully. Somewhere other women (and men) stand for the best version of you. Somewhere you will be inspired to continue to create the world in which you long to live.

Finding + Embracing My Desire

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Over the last several years, as I have been growing my business, I have had a secret full time job on the side.

This job, as cheesy as it sounds, has been figuring out who the hell I am and what in the world I want.

Ahh yes. My elusive desire…What do I wish to create? What do I want to leave behind? What is it that I want for the world that I am prepared to work my ass off for?

I didn’t realize how difficult that part would be. This unearthing of my desire. But I had buried it so deep within, underneath layer upon layer of other people’s desires that I had co-opted as my own, what I “should” want, and a hefty dose of shame that often comes when women realize they actually have desires of their own.

For many years I was an expert at shuffling my desire off to the side, stuffing it down, and pretending it wasn’t there. I was a good anorexic because I was able to completely let go of my appetite, my desire for food, nurturance, and sustenance.

What’s worse is that I saw letting go of this desire as righteous, and it is not difficult to see why. Whenever another woman declines the dessert someone invariably comments, “Oh I wish I had your will power.”

Because for a woman to negate her appetite – for food, for sex, for life – is equated with her being “good”.

Stay small. Don’t want to too much. Whatever you do, don’t let the ravenous beast inside you get out.

When I healed my relationship around food, my anorexic mindset around desire only shifted. Instead of food it became money.

I would brag to friends, and sometimes still do, that in my first job out of college I made $21,000 per year living in LA and managed to save several thousand dollars over the course of eight months.

Of course, saving money isn’t a bad thing and I eventually used that money for a trip to Europe. But the unhealthy part was the good old “look at how little I can survive on” mentality. You others, with your messy desires…I don’t need that. I can make it on an $8 per day food budget, just you watch!!

See, I equated desire with need, with necessity, for a long time. And the fewer needs one had, that meant I was somehow winning at life (I have later realized, that is not true…).

But desire isn’t about need. It’s about DESIRE. It is about wanting. Longing. Yearning.

And that for me felt very dangerous and uncomfortable.

It felt big and unknown. What if I wanted everything? What if, when uncaged, this beast would ravage through my life?

I feared this because desire is life force.

It is creative energy in its purest form.

And thus, instinctively, I knew that once it was unleashed it couldn’t be contained. But it’s not supposed to be.

Desire is not some frivolous or hedonistic thing. It doesn’t need to be carefully measured, managed, and controlled. It needs to be set free.

Desire asks to be honored. Worshipped. Because your desire, whatever it may be, is pointing the way back to your soul. It is the seed of every creation. It is a map to remembering a long forgotten promise…

Of who you are and what you came here to do.

But if you are like me, you have kept it stored away under lock and key in some dark dungeon in your heart. Not trusting it enough to set it free. Yearning for it as if it existed outside of yourself.

Well women, the time has come for us to reclaim our wanting. Because by reclaiming our desire, we reclaim our agency; we take back our power. And the world needs us more than ever…lit up, turned on, and supremely alive. Staying small and quiet, as means to a good girl badge, is no longer cutting it, for us as individuals or as a collective.

Which begs the question…what DO you want?

If you are ready to unearth your desires in a community of fiercely feminine women who have your back, surrounded by the beautiful healing energy of Sedona, I would love to have you join me and Serena Hicks for the Fiercely Feminine Retreat happening December 2-4, 2016 at the Kimpton Amara Resort in Sedona. Registration is now open! For all the deets and to reserve your space (getting our special limited number room rate at the beautiful Kimpton Amara Resort), click here.

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If you are on the fence, we are having a call at 12pm CST on Thursday, November 10th where we will divulge the magic that will ensue amongst the red rocks AND give you an opportunity to ask us any questions that you have about the event.

PLUS we are going to let you in on an AMAZING BONUS we are offering if you book before November 13th!!

To access the call dial 712.770.4035 and enter access code 184926 at 12pm CST 11/10.

Serena and I are so excited to bring you this beautiful holiday offering!!