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It’s Time For Some Changes Around Here

It has been a few weeks since I posted a new blog. I have been taking a sacred pause on a few things, or rather more like a full stop.

I needed a hefty dose of my own medicine.

The women I work with are doers, pleasers, and achievers. The feminine realm of being and feeling can be a bit terrifying.

Who are you when you let go of all the doing?

A few weeks ago I began to notice my own cycle of endless doing. Much of last year my body and soul longed to slow down, to simply be, and I didn’t listen. I mean, I tried to listen, but I didn’t fully understand what that meant.

So I carried on, and rather than slowing down and doing less, in many ways I began doing more. I shared more of my experiences, stories, and wisdom via my blog, newsletter, and facebook group. I created more. Gave more of my energy (which is what led me to calling 2018 the year of the Sacred No).

This is a sticky area for me. I love to create, to write, and to teach, which makes boundaries in these areas tricky. Helping women unearth and embody their truth and their feminine power is my jam. It’s my passion, my calling.

But it’s also my work.

When I finally did come to a full stop, I saw the unsustainability of this pattern I was in. It is unsustainable both financially and energetically.

The over-giving heart eventually gives out.

And I cannot hold space for or guide other women to stand in their truth from a place of depletion. The way of the feminine is embodiment. It’s about walking your walk, not just talking your talk.

In consistently “putting myself out there”, I haven’t kept enough in here. For myself. I love writing that feels raw and intimate, and at the same time, not everything needs to be made public or turned into a story that creates meaning for others. It is okay to hold on to some things just for me.

I have started to feel the same way about social media and the constant need to document and share some of our most profound experiences with large audiences. I no longer want to go on a nature walk just so that I can have Instagram fodder for the week. I don’t want to make meaning of the moment that I am in and frame it in such a way that it will look and sound good to someone else.

I am over seeking external validation in all of its forms. It’s exhausting.

What I most long for is depth, to sink deeper into the pure experience of life, and it is time for me to take responsibility for how I rob myself of that desire.

I have sent out my weekly wisdom in the form of this blog/newsletter for the last 2+ years. It has been a pleasure to connect with you in this way, and I so appreciate that you have taken the time to open and read what I have to share. I hope and trust that it has served you.

And it is time for me to explore some other ways of showing up in the world. Ways that feel sustainable, nourishing, AND of service. Ways that are rooted in relatedness and energy exchange.

To be honest, I still don’t know what that looks like yet, but I know that it exists. That is why I need to stop and listen, so that I can hear my own inner wisdom. So that I can discern my next steps with clarity and confidence.

This doesn’t mean I will never send out another newsletter or post another blog. I am certain that I will. There will come times when I want to share from a place of fullness and pure desire, and to stifle that impulse would be no better than pushing myself to share when the true desire is lacking. This is all about the truth of feeling and creating systems that support that truth.

I want to be clear on one other thing as well. This is most definitely not the end of Singing Bird; it is the gestation phase before the rebirth. I am still working with my clients, whom I love. I have openings for a handful of new clients for my Wise Woman Mentorship this spring. I am still teaching my weekly Qoya class, hosting events, and holding space for other women to find and embody their truth.

I am just talking about it less. Sharing less of my own personal process and the process that I guide my clients through. That is my sacred work and only I can honor it as such.

Again, thank you for being here. Here is to our continual individual and collective evolution. Here is to the rise of the feminine on the planet and the Sovereign Queen within us all.

Much love,

Linda

The Road to Sovereignty Is Messy AF

The journey to embodying your Wise Woman, your Sovereign Feminine, is so empowering. It allows you to tap into your truth and the power that comes from living that truth into existence through your life. It’s seriously amazing.

And it’s seriously messy.

For some reason the phrase “it ain’t easy being cheesy” popped up into my mind, and though I am not certain it really applies here, I am gonna go with it.

Because it is not necessarily an easy road. And it’s definitely not a linear road. There are countless twists and turns and dead-ends.

If you have been in the habit of not speaking your truth for the better part of your lifetime, shirking your own truth in order to make others comfortable, honoring your own feelings and boundaries will be bumpy at first.

You will say the “wrong” thing. You will upset some people in the process or potentially hurt someone’s feelings without meaning to. You will feel super awkward. You will retreat from your truth into the comfort of old patterns. You will opt to stay silent because you just can’t deal with a potential confrontation.

Don’t expect your truth to pour forth as golden honey from your lips. It has spent years simmering beneath the surface. When it comes out it may be a bit goopy or tainted. Or it might erupt like a volcano. Or just seep out ever so quietly when you wished it sounded more powerful.

That’s okay!! It’s supposed to be messy!!

First off, there is the whole process of mining yourself for what is REALLY true for you. This may sound like a breeze. I assure you, it’s not. There are so many old, adaptive behaviors and thoughts that aren’t true that need to be sifted through. Limiting beliefs. Feelings that have been stuffed away and never felt or experienced. Often we try so hard to hide the truth from ourselves that we almost succeed.

This is the unearthing process where we peel back layer upon layer to get to your essence.

Then comes the part of beginning to live your truth. In your relationships. With other people that know you and matter to you. To learn how to say no. To respond instead of react. To honor the truth of your feelings in the moment without being an ass. To uphold your boundaries.

For recovering people pleasers, this is where it gets really messy and makes you want to squirm.

You may be wondering to yourself at this point, with all this mess and discomfort, why on earth would I want to do this? Why embark on this journey to begin with?

You walk this road to sovereignty because you cannot take another step that feels like a lie.

Because you feel the call. Because you are tired of hiding and pretending. Because you want to be a person that people can trust, who lives in integrity with her truth.

Because you know that you have more to offer the world, and yet you feel stuck. Your truth ends up sticking in your throat and you swallow it down again and again, and you just can’t do it anymore.

If this message resonates with you, and despite being terrified of the journey or of what is on the other side, you hear the call of your Sovereign Feminine, I would love to speak with you. It is my passion to hold space for, guide, and walk hand-in-hand with women reclaiming themselves, their feelings, and their truth.

To set up your free 30-minute Discovery Call, visit my online scheduler or send me an email at singingbirdhealth@gmail.com.