Singing Bird Holistic Health Coaching

People Pleasing 101…Part 4!

People Pleasing 101 is my 10-week video series where I share some of THE MOST COMMON traits and characteristics of being a pleaser so that you can identify this pattern in your own life! This week our topic is ASKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT. Whether in an interview negotiating your salary, asking for a raise at work, or asking for new business as an entrepreneur, when you are a people pleaser asking for what you want can be VERY difficult. This week we are looking at this specifically through the lens of how this can affect your most intimate relationships when you are unable to share your desires with your partner.

To access the playlist for the movement portion via Spotify, click here. If you do not have Spotify, I have included the songs I recommend dancing to for each portion below. Like we say in Qoya, there is no way that you can do this wrong. Be willing to put aside any fears that you do not know how to move your own body. I also recommend that you briefly journal about what it felt like to dance with each of these songs after you have completed the movement portion. Did it feel familiar? Did it trigger any memories or associations? What did you feel and sense as you moved?

  1. Shadow on the Wall by Brandi Carlile – Dance with what it feels like when you cannot ask for what you want, when you swallow your desires to avoid rocking the boat
  2. Everybody Wants to Rule the World by Lorde – Dance with the contrast of your previous experience by exploring what it feels like when you ALWAYS have to get your way
  3. Born this Way by Lady Gaga – CRAZY SHAKING FREE DANCE!! Let go of the physical sensations that may have come up during the last two songs by shaking them out of your body! Dance with what it feels like to BE YOURSELF, asking for what you want and giving others the freedom to do the same.

To set yourself FREE, you must be willing to break out of the self-imposed cage that is people pleasing. If you want to be the first to know when my new program designed specifically for women who suffer from chronic people pleasing officially launches this fall, sign up here.

People Pleasing 101…Part 3!

ARE YOU A PLEASER? A RECOVERING GOOD GIRL?

In this 10-week video series I share some of the most common traits of pleasing so that you can identify this pattern in your own life!

In this week’s video we are talking about what can happen if you have pleasing as a chronic habit, a long-term way of being. Pleasing values what other people think and want, and over time negatively affects the relationship that you have with yourself, your desires, and your soul purpose.

This fall I am launching a program especially for women who suffer from chronic people pleasing. This is for you if you see yourself in these videos, but you don’t know what to do about it. In this program you will get to know your pleaser so you can identify where and when she shows up, find who you are and what lights you up BENEATH that learned behavior (yes, pleasing is learned, not ingrained), and learn to BE that person and SPEAK YOUR TRUTH where it matters most in your life.

Be the first to get more information on this program as it becomes available by registering your email here.

People Pleasing 101…Part 2!

Welcome to Part 2 of my 10-week video series on People Pleasing 101! (If you missed it, watch part 1 here.) In this video, I talk about the simple and altruistic desire to have everyone “just be happy” and how that easily flips into full-on pleasing. This is one of my FAVORITE perspective shifts when it comes to pleasing because it is so MIND-BLOWING and impactful!

If you are a woman and a chronic people pleaser, this fall I am launching a program just for you! If you are tired of trying to manage other people’s emotions and experiences, and ready to set yourself (and everyone else) free, click here to sign up and you will be the first to be notified when this powerful program opens for registration!

People Pleasing 101…Part 1

Welcome to Part 1 of my 10-week video series on People Pleasing 101. In this video, I cover one of the most common symptoms of people pleasing and how it manifests in your life. I also share WHY it is problematic to lump people pleasing and kindness into the same category!

If you want to be the first to know when my new program designed specifically for women who suffer from chronic people pleasing officially launches this fall, sign up here.